Tuesday, May 7, 2013

Change is inevitable

If I have learned anything in life it is that CHANGE is inevitable. To resist change is to hinder improvement, understanding, and positive relationships. While you are arguing the point that "if it's not broken don't fix it" someone open to change is walking away with what use to be your opportunity! So, for once, step outside of your norm, embrace change and experience the wonderment that awaits!

Dr. Sam

Monday, February 25, 2013

Reflections from Reading

Good morning! I hope each of you had a good and productive weekend. I did some reading and re-reading this weekend. I reviewed some notes that I previously journaled and decided to add some pages to this blog based on topic. In the next few days I will be adding a page titled Reflections from Reading. This page will be dedicated to thoughts from my reading that I believe could be helpful to others. After a few posts let me know what you think!

Dr. Sam

Friday, February 22, 2013

The Miracle in Tragedy!

When things don't go the way we plan, the first thing most of us want to know is why! We are hurt, disappointed, and angry. Sometime those feelings are directed to ourselves and other times toward others. But, regardless of whether we accept or assign blame, in the end we find a place for fault.

Typically though, in this world where survival of the fittest is the reality, we try to rationalize why blame or fault should be placed anywhere except with us. I would go as far as saying that even those who accept blame/fault don't do it for the right reasons!

That's right! Think about it for a minute. When tragedy hits, those who consider themselves as having some sort of moral compass often place at least some part of the blame/fault on themselves, with the rationale that somehow they missed the mark; somehow they missed a step or didn't consider all the possibilities while planning.

The truth is that our error is not in missing steps. Our error is in believing we have the power to plan our lives!

I'm a planner; so this realization has been riveting. Our power is in God and what we perceive as tragedy is God showing us that HIS will be done; that although he will provide us the desires of our heart, the tragedies we find in realizing those desires are because those desires don't align with Gods plan.

The "Miracle" of what we perceive as tragedy is when we finally accept that although what "we" desire will be provided to us; it will only end in tragedy if it is not the desire of God!

The Spirit of God is in each one of us. It is separate and apart from anything we can explain. It is His spirit that compels us to do that which we cannot explain but know is right. Stop telling God your plans and instead follow the Spirit within you!

Dr. Sam

Friday, February 1, 2013

The S in S.M.A.R.T

In my last entry I introduced the topic of S.M.A.R.T goals and asked you to write some goals based on "your" understanding at that point. Hopefully you've completed that step. Before I go any further, let me just say that Goals and Resolutions are different! Typically when we make resolutions 1. We don't keep them 2. We never make a solid plan to get it done and evaluate if we were successful; and 3. Even if they are met they don't last! However, goals are very different. Goals are planned, measured over time, and evaluated. This allows you to stay on track, but only if you are dedicated and have a good support team!

Moving on; let's talk about the "S" in S.M.A.R.T goals. The S stresses that your goal be specific. Basically, the who, what, when, and why. That is going to take some thinking.
This is what "thinking" looks like!

Lets take a look at some examples of specific and non-specific goals.

Non-Specific: Lose weight.    
Specific: Lose 10 lbs.

Non-Specific: It's important       
Specific: It's important because I my blood pressure has been elevated and I want to live a long time.

Non-Specific: My friends I      
Specific: Dawn, Sagen, Karla and I will be working together to keep each other motivated.

 Non-Specific: Maybe the gym or maybe I 'll just walk or try to get in some crunches during the day;
 Specific: I'm free on Wednesday and Friday evenings from 6-7pm so I'll spend that time at the  gym.

 Non-Specific: Find a diet and workout plan.
 Specific: I'm going to try the Atkins diet and work on my abs, butt and thighs.

 Putting it all together:

 I want to lose 10 lbs so that I can lower my blood pressure and improve my life expectancy. I will need a support team so Dawn, Sagen and Karla are going to work on a plan to help keep each of us motivated and on track. To meet this goal I will need to work out and consume more healthy foods. To accomplish this Dawn, Sagen, Karla and I will spend 30 mins after church each Sunday planning our meals for the week and deciding who will cook what. We've decided to try the Atkins diet so we will shop together and work with gym personnel to develop our own individual exercise plan to address three target areas (abs, butt and thighs).

I know you are probably saying, "Wow that's long and it's only the "S" part! You're right. However, keep in mind this is a GOAL not a RESOLUTION! Trust me on this planning and being specific increases the likelihood of success!!!

PS: I'm still evaluating the SMART goals app I mentioned last time. I'll post a review when I'm done.

Until next time, take some time and write or revamp your goal(s) so that they are SPECIFIC.

Dr. Sam